On trying to settle things several weeks in advance...

[preluding]

Since you're asking for my opinion on the matter...I think you're being far too hasty with the time frame you're being given. I know you'd like to settle if it's the Eldest Daughter or I that you'll be sending, but you make it seem like it's a race against time when you have more than a month to make the decision.

Patience is a virtue, mundane, and you have plenty of time to test your options. It's your choice on how you wish to spend it.