Actually, let me expand on that question. Say I do change in the way you hope I will. Where's the balance? I can't just stop being sorry one day, even if I wanted to, because there's no one left to pick up the slack. If I stop shouldering the responsibility for Vile, it's like saying everything that happened is okay. It's not. It never will be. If I stop thinking that way, where does the judgement come from? What stops it from being okay? What stops me from thinking of it as being okay?
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Actually, let me expand on that question. Say I do change in the way you hope I will. Where's the balance? I can't just stop being sorry one day, even if I wanted to, because there's no one left to pick up the slack. If I stop shouldering the responsibility for Vile, it's like saying everything that happened is okay. It's not. It never will be. If I stop thinking that way, where does the judgement come from? What stops it from being okay? What stops me from thinking of it as being okay?